Wednesday, February 17, 2016

The ideal companion...

When I think about dating and what I am looking for in a guy, it's hard to pick one trait.  I would say it is all the little things that most people don't notice.  I think respecting each other and not bickering or talk down to each other. Considering each other's feelings and consulting with each other about scheduling dates and purchases instead of making decisions on your own which could affect the other person or the family. I think it is the way we hold hands and stand or sit beside each other, always close - touching without being overly sexual. The kiss hello and goodbye. The smile at each other. The laugh and sharing casual conversation with ease. Wanting to spend time with each other. It's all the little things that tell the other person you are important, you are cared for, and I value you in my life.

I need to have someone I trust, respect, and admire. He needs to be faithful and a kind thoughtful partner.  A good sense of humor is important . A quick wit. Patience is a must. Kind to animals.  Slow to anger. Likes the outdoors and nature. Likes to travel and have adventures. Is financially stable. Able to have a healthy sex life. Confident but not arrogant. Someone I will love and cherish for the rest of my life.  I waited so long to do this. I am not a lonely person, but I no longer want to be alone. I don't want to rush into anything.  I have had enough disasters in my life.   

Wednesday, January 13, 2016

Ok, so I am definitely single.  It's been several, well more years than I hate to admit, since I last dated.  For a moment there, I felt I was in a confessional.  It's not a sin to be alone, I just think it's about time I went out there and tried my luck at on-line dating. It's not that I am a lonely woman, I go out with my friends or by myself.  I just thought that it's about time to find someone to share some fun with me like hiking, dancing, going to the movies.

Six months ago I started on-line "dating," you might even call it trolling.  I would like to report that this has been a relatively successful experience.  If you measure success by how many dates I have been on or if I have met "Mr. Right" then I will have to admit that for the most part it has been challenging.  I am learning how to discern the wheat from the chaff and not to reply to those men who profess love before meeting me, or who have asked me for money, or those who want to know where I would like to relocate once they get back from their business trip in the middle east.  Really??  I learned the meaning of "catfished."  Those bottom feeders who prey on women not gain love and belonging, but money or even Mac computers while they lie their way into a woman's heart.  I have learned that men too are the victims of this social phenomenon.  I won't give up!  "Mr. Right" may be just around the corner or as my mother would say, "he might have a brother."  For the moment, I am concentrating on "Mr. Right Now."

Some stories just have to be told.  Till next time...